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I preach, above all else, compassion. Gentleness with self is the much-needed salve to heal our deep hurts. When we try and hate ourselves into changing, we only create more of the same. When our bodies are in the red zone – in fight or flight as created by our […]

Self compassion or self suppression?


Through all the challenges in my life – and in all my attempts to deal with challenge, there has been but one thing that has soothed me above all else. Despite the thousands of dollars spent on retreats and workshops and yoga and therapy and massage. Despite the many books […]

How anxiety leads to burnout


When I first started reading Clarissa Pinkola Estes’ outstanding book Women Who Run with the Wolves I was but two pages in before I read a word that made my stomach drop and my heart stop for a minute. Women, she said, have become domesticated. The word is purposeful, and biting. A conscious […]

The urge within



Since I began cycle syncing my work schedule, I’ve noticed a whole bunch of benefits. The way I now work is to coach every second week and spend the alternate week writing/marketing/workshop planning or resting. I sync these non-coaching weeks with my period (when I need to rest for a […]

Please don’t get a f*cking massage this week


On the weekend, I ran my very first multi-day retreat here in the heart of Central Victoria. The experience was a deeply enriching learning experience for me – not only as a culmination of 18 months of manifesting this innermost desire, but as an individual woman on my own search […]

Bring back that loving feeling….


I’ve been noticing a few things awry these last months. First, a subtle gnawing in my belly that can satisfied only by sweet things. I’ve found myself buying extra cakes, baking more and heading to the fridge after meals to fill my belly with nectar. Second – an insipid compulsion […]

What our cravings can teach us



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I love helping women learn the tools to prevent or move beyond burnout. And inevitably, as part of conversations around burnout, it is necessary to have an open and meaningful conversation about work. Because it seems that women – particularly those who I work with in the caring or service […]

Working 9 to 5… not a way to make a ...


For a long time, I have beaten myself up for not being consistent. Business coaches the world over tell me that it is not until I am meticulously consistent that I will be successful. The key to parenting my daughter, I understand, is just to be more consistent. To be consistently emotionally available. To be consistently calm. My health, I believe, will […]

Why I’m not striving for consistency…


I talk often about how life happens in cycles and not in linear straight lines. And so it is that I find myself circling back to themes and passions that I thought I had moved beyond. The very first e-book that I wrote when I started my blog a few […]

Beyond burnout … a guide to building back better



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Imagine an approach to wellbeing that is centered on creating healthy habits. Habits, we are told, take 28 days to cement. During these days, we must painstakingly commit to rigorously integrating these new habits into our lives – day in, day out regardless of how we feel or where we […]

Why healthy habits won’t improve your wellbeing


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I recently posted on my Facebook page a long, lamenting post about how distant I felt from living according to my values and purpose. This year has been tough as my partner and I have grappled with finding the right mix of work, play, family and leisure – long stints […]

The reason you’re not failing


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The thing I love helping clients with the most is expanding their view of what constitutes wellness. We are sold a very narrow perspective of what wellness should look like and as a result we lose sight of the simple pleasures already have access to in order to achieve energy […]

My wellbeing roadmap



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I used to think that I was highly ambitious. That my thirst for ‘more’ – more material things, more work, more approval, more love, more food, more social connections, more hobbies – was merely a reflection of my inherent need for variety, my deep, internal drive to save the world and […]

How mindfulness taught me to stop chasing more


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“The ground’s generosity takes in our compost and grows beauty. Try to be more like the ground”   – Rumi   Guest post by Hannah Churton – The Worm Monger Photo by Maya Hed   Over the last three years, I have spent a lot of time getting to know the […]

The therapy that helped me through an identity crisis


For a few years now, I’ve been noticing stuff. Some of the spiritual among us may call it becoming conscious. Some Buddhists may call it mindfulness. Some may refer to it as awareness. For me, it’s simply been a process of noticing. Noticing first, the physical breakdown of my body. […]

The one habit that changed my life